You're speaking my language now, Mr. Vice President. What's on your nightstand? Youâre dead wrong. The best definition I've seen is from Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Absolutely right. It has to be fought for. And the ever increasing capacity for cruelty and dehumanization from the Trump administration is not something I can get behind from anyone. And I know this is kind of a lot to listen to, so I want to tell you that you can go to the show notes on Bernie Brown dot com and you can get all this information. Her own humor, humanity and vulnerability shine through every word. Over three decades in the Senate, Biden established himself as a leader tackling some of our nation’s toughest challenges – shaping foreign policy; fighting for labor rights and the middle class; and banning assault weapons and writing the landmark Violence Against Women Act to support survivors. And so I think it's important we teach history, not in a prescriptive way from my perspective, but what actually the facts were without also acknowledging that there's four hundred years of racism in the United States of America. Oh, God, that's so counterintuitive and dangerous and true. Join me every Monday on the Dare to Lead podcast as I unpack the skill-sets of courage-building, and talk to as many change-makers, culture-shifters, and troublemakers as possible. OK, last one. Visit podcastchoices.com/adchoices. For the sake of clarity, media outlets with advertising models are permitted to use excerpts from the transcript per the above. Oh, OK, favorite meal. Senator and as Vice President. Gage was always about something bigger than you like, and I wrote the book about my son. I always say some version of that and my colleagues, anybody listening as they've heard me say it 100 times, the people I trust the most in public life who have an idea. Kinda when someone is in a deep hole and they say, im stuck, its dark, im overwhelmed. 10. It's important to give people someone to blame for their discomfort, preferably someone who looks, acts and sounds different from the majority culture. Do you think you can? And we can lead from heart or we can lead from hurt. As I look at the world right now, one of the things that as a researcher that's emerged from my research is this idea that if we run from a hard story in our lives or we run from a hard history, when we run those histories in those stories us, so we have to have the courage to turn and face the story and the history. For that reason, regret can be the birthplace of empathy.” – Brené Brown. It's a desperate and kind of isolating experience. Sign up to be amongst the first contributors. Same sex marriage, and I said I told the story about my dad, remember my dad dropping me off at the city hall to go in and get an application to be a lifeguard on the east side of Wilmington? We donât have to do life alone. In this episode, I talk with Priya Parker - a master facilitator, strategic advisor, and the author ofÂ The Art of Gathering: How We Meet and Why it Matters. That's right. I mean, my mom really, really, really she had a backbone like a ramrod. And, you know, well, she won't mind if I miss her birthday because or he won't mind if I don't get home in time for the graduation. You know, I've had the privilege of knowing nearly every major world leader in the last forty four years, not because I'm so important, but because I chaired the Foreign Relations Committee for years. It's not true. No, I agree. We're putting it in a downloadable PDF for you. In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuine empathic connection if we are brave enough to really get in … Yes. I do love that. People saw a man callously with one hand in his pocket, have a knee on a man whose nose is being crushed against the curb, saying, I can't breathe, and asking for his momma and staying there for eight minutes and forty six seconds till he died. Who's been in politics and, you know, for a long time. Self-respect and respect for others. It's interesting, as someone who studies leadership is kind of my 10th year in this massive leadership study and I have come to the belief that teams and coalitions are what drives success. Another person notices, goes out of their way, and says: “I know what its like down here, and you’re not alone”- your ready to feel with this person, connect with this person, you can relate to this person. People fear what's different. Oh, it just feels like an incredible understatement to say how grateful I am to be here with all of you. She has been studying vulnerability, courage, authenticity, and shame for the past 10 years. In this episode, I share my thoughts on power and leadership, followed by a conversation with Vice President Joe Biden, the 2020 Democratic Presidential Nominee. Together, the Bidens raised three children – Beau, Hunter, and Ashley. You're inspiring. Brené with Dolly Parton on Songtelling, Empathy, and Shining Our Lights Unlocking Us with Brené Brown. This idea of I've never really heard it framed this way, that exposure is liberation the way I think it is. Highly empathic people are good at connecting with others, however, they also have a greater tendency to experience higher volumes of the other end of the spectrum: shame. So there's not a lot of hoarding. But think of how it works most times. – Dr. Brené Brown. How we are so tired and weary and we're heading into flu season. The goal of Dare to Lead is to share everything we’ve learned about taking off the armor and showing up as leaders in a skills-based and actionable playbook. It's about being patriotic. Mr. Vice President, I am so grateful for the time you've spent with us. But they don't want to pay for that because they think somehow they can take care of it and not have to support the national agenda. And I remember getting out of the car one day and said, Mom, why all those African-American kids in that bus that goes by every day by the school? How important to you is team building and coalition building, as you think about your administration? This conversation was a big unlocking for me - especially when it comes to understanding the connection between how we think about our bodies and oppression. Everybody wish had been their mom for real. There's also because it's a learning culture, power within power to empower within is the foundation of a learning culture. Before we jump into our conversation, I want to share some observations with you about leadership, the nature of power, and why this conversation and the questions I ask are really important to me. Iâve spent over 20 years studying the emotions and experiences that bring meaning and purpose to our lives, and if thereâs one thing Iâve learned itâs this: We are hardwired for connection, and connecting requires courage, vulnerability, and conversation. And one of the things that I really love about the broad coalitions of people who agree and disagree and have different life experiences really is this idea of yours that exposure is LibÃ©ration to see me and know me and see that I just wake up and pack lunches and drive, carpool and try to get to work on time just like you. You ever fly across the country and you see all those great big systems that are in the west, in the desert to provide water for the states that don't have it, that we build the entire country paid for the Hoover Dam, the entire country. Look at me, Joey. In this episode Sonya Renee Taylor and I talk about body shame, radical self-love, and social justice. Speech Transcript. A position of power over or are you interested in power with power, too, and power within and power within is about instilling inside of people a sense of agency. That sounds like they really support local control. Empathy and sympathy are often grouped together, but they are very different, as Brené Brown outlines in this video. The renowned researcher and author on emotional literacy and the strengths that lead to better relationships. Well, all those cell phones all over America, guess what people saw and they didn't really believe that really happened. And it's an interesting segue to the next thing I would love to get your thoughts on, which is I'm the fifth generation Texan and. Why should we do that? That sounds good. It's also critical thinking, evidence based thinking and information from multiple perspectives is foundational to power within power to begin next with power over. With the exposure. Well, I'm an optimist because I think that human nature, given an even shot, they tend to do the right thing. Our brave hearts are being summoned. And technology has given us a much wider aperture on the world, but made us much more insular. Born in Pennsylvania as the first of four siblings, Biden was raised to believe that everyone in America deserves a fair shot. It's about helping the other guy, the other woman. I believe you and I agree. So this is this is a good segue. I mean, really being decent is seen as weakness. So here's my conversation with Vice President Biden. How to Help Every Child Fulfil Their Potential - Carol Dweck . That's what it is, and it's able to be fixed, and I think most people are beginning to step up to it. She'd say, Joey, bravery resides in every heart and someday will be summoned someday and be somewhere for real. Are you working from. No big deal, just little tiny things that bring people together that make people realize, whoa, I guess I matter, I guess I care. I mean, if you look back, you really haven't. That’s why empathy—the ability to identify with other My mom used to have an expression. All of a sudden we're silenced. Yet at the exact same time, we kind of push away this notion of power. It's courage. No matter how you can, in fact, attempt to isolate yourself from disease with a little more efficiency, but not very much. Read free transcripts from the hottest podcasts. We have a special episode for you this week. And I'm used to dealing with people who make fun of me. Nobody is better to you, Joey. Jill Biden, who holds a Ph.D. in education, is a life-long educator and community college professor. You'll see the questions that I ask are really about trying to get to the bottom of how does he view power? I'm never going to mislead them. But I have a great opportunity, you know. We call those marble jar moments that trust is not a sweeping moment. Dare to lead on Monday. The other thing that's interesting, I think that kind of goes along with this, it's a little bit secondary is with power over and this is more in political leadership. We hold these truths to be self-evident. You got it last the last point. Itâs mysterious, malleable, constantly changing and up for new challenges. She was really a just has so much character as my dad did. Ruth ~ Lady of Radiant Joy ~ Davidson The audio book of this book is excellent and it's read by the author (6 lectures). That's not who most cops are. If you put the same amount of shame in the petri dish and douse it with empathy, it can't survive." This is about community environments, faith communities or any organization where people come together and there's leadership. Hi, everyone, I'm Bernie Brown, and this is unlocking us. I mean, what do you think your parents would have thought about where we are right now and how shaming and just unkind people are? The complicated. And that's kind of how we were all kind of taught, you know what I mean? And I just think we have to be more honest and let our kids know as we raise them what actually did happen, acknowledge our mistakes so we don't repeat them. And I think it's being summoned right now. And I also think it's important to let people know that it doesn't do any good when we're trying to bring things together. Empathy is feeling WITH people. OK, a snapshot of an ordinary moment in your life that really brings you joy. You're much more easily able to sway a city council or a state legislative body than you are the entire United States Congress representing 50 different points of view based on geography. Biden was sworn into the Senate at his sons’ hospital bedside and began commuting from Washington by train every evening to be with them, a practice he maintained throughout his Senate career. I hope you are, too! I really mean getting my words so powerful. I look just turn looked at my dad and see that before he said, Joe, it's simple, they love each other. I think we're living in the evidence that it is not only a fight that we have to stay in, but it's a fight worth fighting and it's worth fighting because it's sounds melodramatic. He chaired the Foreign Relations and Judiciary Committees and drafted or co-sponsored thousands of pieces of legislation, bringing people together to get big things done. I see my job as your leader. Remember, you're Biden. And there's a lot of depersonalization. That's right. Look, I got involved in public life as a kid because of civil rights, not a joke. Our conversation with Brené Brown is real, open, and reveals what courage, vulnerability and sobriety look like in real life. I'm sorry I'm getting in too much a policy. Every time I walk out of my Grandpop Finnegan's house up and screen for really, Joe, Joey, keep the faith. Give me my word. That's right. Yeah. Including shaming, bullying, belittling, especially toward vulnerable populations. This is in nonprofits, NGOs, people who use power over work from the premise that power is finite and it has to be hoarded and protected and power over is protected by using fear. I'm one hundred and seventy six pounds. Proofread and annotate transcripts for future readers. I'm not joking. Get so many women. An idea. Brené Brown: The Power of Vulnerability Transcript So, I'll start with this: a couple years ago, an event planner called me because I was going to do a speaking event. So go go get them, kid. Animation, Katy Davis, a k a Gibblynne, w w w dot gobblynne dot com. And I point out to them, I said, when's the last time you think somebody we when's the last time when you went to the supermarket you had to get something back in the in the stockroom? They said, why did you tell them that? They said, you know, they can't do that as the old days, talking about dealing with bringing people back together again, even in politics. Think through. Son and daughter, when they see each other, embrace one another and kiss. With TED Talks Daily, find some space in your day to change your perspectives, ignite your curiosity, and learn something new. We have a very strange relationship with the word power. You're talking about vulnerability and empathy. The hope is that we all leave with something I think we need these daysâ¦ A Bit of Optimism. I mean, this is silly. Voice, Doctor Brene Brown. It's not now. Fifty six percent of the American people already arrived at that position because all of a sudden people are figuring out, gotten to know my uncle was gay or didn't know my Aunt Mary was. And by the way, I'm not making myself out to be some kind of savior. Is an idea that is generated in the gut, goes to their heart, and they have the intellectual capacity to articulate it, they're the people the people intellectually arrive at it without the feeling, but intellectually know this is the right thing to do. And this, I can think completely my social work education for this, that there is power over. And so I think there's sort of a liberation in exposure. Show Transcript Author of … And she said because they're not allowed to go to the public school. 7 views; about 7 hours ago; 49:21; This episode is proof that dreams do come true! And so I guess what I'm trying to say is I think that the American public. And look the coin of the realm. You could say you're a jerk. And the amendment said, let's totally defund Amtrak and totally defund all water projects. I-95 has been replaced by I-95, but it's still there. Fear is the primary tool for protecting power for those that lead from a place of power over leaders who work from a position of power with in power to have a completely different foundational framework. But what happens is when they don't know what's going on, they fear. “Empathy has no script. It's really important to give people who are experiencing fear and uncertainty a false sense of certitude and safety that is usually based on nostalgia or ideology over facts. But I remember him telling our doctor because he's going into his and lots of operation doctor promised me. One of the things I say a lot of my work is that people are really hard to hate. The essentially probably I don't know, I'm thinking probably half mile, which we could do up from the apartments we lived in to go to the school I went to. And they don't want any part of that, even though they're the ones that benefit when people put their businesses where they can get their products to market the quickest. We got out of that when we saw what everybody saw nationally on that. Got simple. She's my best friend in the world, but she's a big fan of yours. Not for real. Right. Or, for example, I think we should have to learn about what happened in Oklahoma, where you had black Wall Street burned to the ground. Well, I do too. And the fact is that I was convinced that we have to form an administration that looks and represents the American people across the board and also someone who is ready, God forbid, on day one, that they could step up and be the president, United States. But I think a day where Republicans were against infrastructure, it used to be Republicans were the ones who wanted to build highways, roads, ports, bridges, airports, Amtrak business and so on. But is the last four years is specifically felt like white male power over making a last stand, like a last ditch effort to maintain that. Joey God, no. So a tremendous difference between a goal of destabilizing and dividing, a goal of uniting and differences around what decency means is decency for suckers or is decency a function of. And everybody tells me how do we unify the country. One of the reasons why my Irish heritage has been called into question is because I don't hold grudges. Because, you know, I'm I'm. It's about white male power over. Well anyway, I hope I get to meet you someday. When you're a kid who stutters, I'm now you know, I'm six one. And on the other side of the continuum, there is power with power to and power within leaders who use power over. So I remember having a debate once when they wanted to get rid of Amtrak and they said, why should I pay for this as a Westerner? 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